Sunday, February 27, 2011


This is one of those times the word "love" is simply not sufficient. To say that Justus "loved" the Monster Jam we went to last night would not accurately describe his feelings. He was eating it up. All of the boys (and men) were, to be honest. I even had a lot of fun. It was so entertaining, but I still cannot for the life of me figure out what possesses a person to want to be in a car wreck over and over and over...(The drivers were wearing neck braces and back braces for crying out loud!)

We saw monster trucks lose their tires, leap over cars, crush an RV, burst into flames, flip over themselves, and completely destroy their shell. It was awesome :)

Titus wasn't a huge fan of the noise level, but overall he had fun. He cheered, he clapped, and he yelled "YEAH!" when a monster truck crashed into the wall (like any normal boy would, right?!)

I didn't take my nice, new camera with me, because I was afraid they would say I couldn't bring it in...and then I would have to walk aaaaaall the way back to the van (which was FAR from the stadium.) I was sad about that, because there were so many great photo ops, but oh well. Now I know for next time...because I'm sure we'll be back :)

We made a quick run in to Wendy's on our way back to the car (and took a picture with me in it to prove that yes, I was there, too :) ) The little boys did great at home with a wonderful babysitter, and I am so glad Derek and I were able to hang out with our big boys without a baby on our hip or a toddler on our leg...just for a little while!

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Raising Real Men, Part 4

Moving on to chapter 5, we face the topic of discipline. I couldn't WAIT to read this chapter (only that's a lie...I did NOT go into this topic with a cheerful heart!) Lord, forgive me. I often say I have so much to learn when it comes to parenting, but on the subject of discipline?? Well, saying I have a lot to learn is quite an understatement. I often think I'm getting this discipline thing down, you know? Things are going well, my kids are behaving...and then another child hits a different phase, and we're back at square one. It's draining, to say the least. Thankfully, this chapter was full of Scripture, biblical truth, and practical ideas. Let's go...

The title of this chapter is "Who's In Charge Here?" The authors take us down the simple chain of command, reminding us how important it is for us to both realize the truth of this ourselves and also to teach our kids how this leadership thing works. First, God is the ultimate authority. God gives men (and therefore fathers) authority over families. Fathers appoint their wives as the secondary authority figures, and mothers teach their children (specifically boys) how to become leaders...thus keeping the cycle running smoothly.

Yeah, easier said than done, right? What about when dad is at work (and out of the house) way more than he is actually at home, acting out his authority-role? What about when sons rebel? What about bossy boys who want to take charge over everyone in the house?

My favorite truth in this chapter was this: a boy will respond to his mother's authority much more willingly if he knows that authority was given to his mother via his father. The simple fact is, because God has given boys a desire to "rule the roost" so to speak, they naturally have a hard time obeying, submitting to, and accepting discipline from a woman...even if it is his dear, sweet mother :)

This chapter is so full. I learned about the importance of MY submission to MY heavenly Father's authority being first and foremost, before my leadership role over my children should even be touched. I was reminded of the importance of service in all of this...serving my husband, serving my children, and teaching my sons to serve through their own leadership positions. I read about (and should probably already go back and RE-READ) dealing with my sons' disobedience and rebellion to authority.

In conclusion, I give you the quote of the week:

"...God has given men a special role as leaders, and especially as leaders of other men, that requires conscious training and development for our sons' preparation." (p. 82)

Buy the book...if only to read this chapter :)

Friday, February 18, 2011

Frye News

This week was so least by our standards ;)

The big boys had their first 2 swim lessons this week. The first day was awful, but the second lesson was amazingly fun for them!! It's funny how things change so quickly sometimes!

We had to take 3 (or 4, I lost count) trips to the auto repair for the van. To show for those trips? Two new tires, and an upcoming $600 bill for some dangerous leakage that I couldn't explain even if I tried. All I know is this...waiting at Walmart for an hour and a half wasn't exactly what I would have chosen for afternoon plans for me and my 4 little ducklings, but it wasn't as bad as I thought. Waiting for an hour at the mechanic (same day as Walmart) while the oil was changed and the previously mentioned bill was written? Not so bad either...Sonic and cable tv and a waiting room all to ourselves helped :) All in all, we handled it. The boys went with the flow, and I was once again SO thankful for my easy baby boy :)

We had a play date this week, watched some kids for a friend, went to Bible study, and Eli got his hair cut AT a salon (?barber shop? no, what do you call a hair cutting place where they cut kids, men's and women's hair all at one place?) I think the boys only broke a couple things this week (and they were just toys), so that was probably a record. Justus somehow managed to run into a rock that Eli was carrying (it WAS actually pretty big, and I'm not quite sure how Eli was carrying it so successfully), so he had a knot and bruise on his forehead today...and Eli has a nice cut under his eye from something that I can't even remember. AND I have to say, 2 very minor injuries ain't so bad around here.

Tomorrow, we have baseball registration (where both Justus AND Titus will be signed up for t-ball. Lord, help me!) After that, we will run to the store to pick up a birthday present, head to a birthday party, come home for naps, and then right back into the car we will go to church! (I'm hoping to fit a trip to the library in there somewhere as well, but we'll see.) Sunday is our Sabbath, so we usually don't do much of anything...but tomorrow, Justus has been invited to AWANA with a friend, sooooo we have that.

In other news, Titus is being initiated into the big boy club tomorrow. That's right, we are saying "GOODBYE!!" to his little dirty, worn out, ragged friend, Monkey. (The monkey's name is Monkey.) We are pulling the same stunt we used when we took Justus' pacifiers away, and hoping it works. We will take Monkey to the store (I guess when we buy our friend's birthday present?) and let Titus pick out a toy which he will then "pay for" with Monkey. It doesn't really sound promising when I type it out like that, but it really worked when we did it with Justus. No, really, it did....Will you pray for us?....

So I guess that's it! I decided not to do the "Friday Fragments" this week, because my Fryeday posts aren't usually a bunch of fragments. They tend to turn into a bunch of random run-on sentences. (and I don't think there are any bloggers out there who run "Friday Run-On" link ups :) )

Happy Fryeday!!

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Raising Real Men, Part 3

Chapter 3 was a very short chapter, but full of ideas on a simple truth:
Boys will become men who will eventually come to a situation or position where they will need to stand up for what they believe in. In certain situations, this might mean they are left standing alone (hence the title of the chapter, "Standing Alone.") Through the reading of Luke 16:10 ("He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much,") the Young's set out to give their sons responsibilities and leadership positions in baby steps. Most importantly, it all began under parental supervision. Their purpose in this plan was to make sure their boys were given ample opportunity to face real-life obstacles while Mom and Dad were there by their side. When the boys became men and were truly faced with those situations (withOUT Mom and Dad), they had the confidence and courage to stand alone and do what was right.

My favorite lesson in this chapter (and one I was quick to share with my husband ;) ) was the idea of boys being their Mom's "bodyguard." I chose this week's quote with ease...

"Their mother should never be carrying anything until every boy is fully loaded..."
(p. 61, emphasis mine ;) )


The following chapter was tough for me. In it, the Young's deal with boys' obsession with guns (and other weapons) and fighting. To be completely honest, I really don't think I have ever had a huge issue with my sons playing with pretend guns. We talk to them about the fact that their guns aren't real (and that they should never touch a real gun), and we do not allow them to point guns at people. After reading this chapter, I realized there is still a lot more information I need to be instilling into their little boy (future men) hearts and minds. Once again, the Young's pointed out that this desire to fight, deal with weaponry, and use force is rooted in Scripture. (In other words, there is a reason and a purpose God put those desires there.)

My favorite part of this chapter was the idea that all of these boys were created to be warriors. They will be faced with sin and evil in one way or another, and they will need to "fight" it head on, whether with weapons, force, or simply words. I have a lot to learn on this topic, and this chapter was such a wonderful resource. On my homework list for this week, we are going to dive into Ephesians 6...the boys are going to love learning about putting on "the whole armor of God." (I have no doubt about that :) )

Monday, February 14, 2011

Friday, February 11, 2011


We had MOPS this morning! Woohoo!!!!!!! Love it more than I can express. Love the women, love the wisdom, love the encouragement, love the breakfast line :)

We are home, 3 out of 4 are napping, and I'm trying to think of something to do for Family Night tonight.

I really, really need to plan a date night with, you know, my HUSBAND!! Oh, how I miss him and long to spend time with just him. Maybe we're getting old (or maybe we're overworked), but conversations in bed at midnight (or well, even at 10:00) are not too exciting. No offense, babe...but for the record, if anyone should be offended, it's me (since I'm the main one doing the talking :) hehe)

Melanie Young found out I was blogging through her and her husband's book Raising Real Men. How funny! (and random) I guess I really need to keep up with the weekly post now, just in case she decides to check in again! haha Good thing I love the book and can hardly put it down. Writing consistent, weekly posts about it, though? Well, that's easier said than done.

Happy Friday!!

Check out more Friday Fragments at Half-Past Kissin' Time!

Mommy's Idea

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Raising Real Men, Part 2

Continuing to read about the REAL superheroes I should introduce and tell my sons about, this week's reading discussed the importance that the number one hero of anyone (boy or girl!) should of course be Christ. Even though this fact seems obvious, there is an important catch. So often, the Jesus our kids hear about and see in pictures (etc.) is not necessarily an accurate display of the Jesus we want them to know. Our pastor jokingly talks about paintings of Jesus that are truly comical...I mean, really?? Some of them make Jesus look like a woman.

The true Savior who conquered DEATH is who we should be teaching our sons about. I want my boys to be disciples of THAT Jesus. Jesus was not effeminate, He was not "a softy." Yes, He loved and He was compassionate...of course! He was also strong and brave, bold, daring, outspoken, firm, and steadfast. HE was a real man.
I also read the Young's opinions and strategies for choosing and reading through great literature with their boys. They had many recommendations for different ages, and they talked about censoring different material, including television and art. I think the best part was about training our sons to choose to look away on their own, without any prompting from us, the parents. If they see something on TV (or even in the check out line at the store), they need to know how to recognize when things are not appropriate and might cause them to sin. I am quick to tell my kids to look away from a commercial during football games, but I need to start explaining why in more detail. This is a "skill" that will be crucial to their surviving in this sin-filled world.

Lord, give me the wisdom and discernment to know when and how to teach my sons this self-control!!!
Chapter 2 was about the typical male's desire for adventure. There was a lot in this chapter...another chapter full of highlighted, starred, and asterisked sections ;) I will sum it up with this week's Quote of the Week...

"Adults sometimes equate a desire for adventure with immaturity and recklessness. The Bible makes a distinction and so should we. The desire to conquer, to win against the odds, to do great things - these can be admirable ambitions." (p. 48)

Saturday, February 5, 2011

Friday, February 4, 2011

A wintery mix of emotions

If you couldn't tell by this post, I really don't like the cold. I just don't. I have gotten worse in my old age, I guess ;) because my distaste for the snow, ice, and cold temperatures is growing. We finally got out of the house today, though. Yep, that's knight in shining armor drove us to ChickFilA with only one incident to (not) speak of.

Anyway, while we were out, I was just struck by the beauty of the snow. I mean, it's an amazing display of God's creativity! Not only that, but the season of winter serves quite a purpose.

Did you know that in the winter, trees' and plants' roots have to go deeper into the soil to find warmth...and therefore gain strength in doing so? One cannot help but see the symbolism in our walk with the Lord. I might not ENJOY shivering, layering clothes, or being stuck in the house for days on end. Yet, if it forces me to dig my "roots" into Jesus a little deeper? To recognize my need for the warmth only His light and love and discipline can provide? To actually stop and be thankful for my warm house, blankets, and clothes that so many others are without?

Well, then, I'd say the winter was totally worth it.

"Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the LORD,

“ Though your sins are like scarlet,
They shall be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They shall be as wool."
Isaiah 1:18

Not so Fun Fryeday



Temps in the teens

Wind chills in the single digits

Another week in the house

How do you like them fragments? Me? Not so much...

Maybe you can find some more upbeat Friday Fragments over at Half-Past Kissin' Time!

Mommy's Idea

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Raising Real Men

I just started reading Raising Real Men by Hal and Melanie Young, and I am already blown away. I read so many rave reviews about the book, and (seeing as I have four boys) I figured it would be a good one for my library. I will posting a "quote of the week" from the book here on the blog, as well as various convictions, thoughts, and things I am learning. I would love to have something to look back at once I'm finished reading the book, and I hope it will benefit those of you with boys out there as well. So often, I feel like I need to re-read books once I finish them simply because it takes me so long to get through them. This is also one of those books that I feel like has so much to chew on in one chapter, I need to let it sit for a few days. I hope you gain some wisdom from these authors (of SIX boys) as I do the same!! If you ARE a mother of many boys (or even just one!), pick up this book. It is totally worth whatever price you can find it for. I would seriously quote almost the whole book here if I felt like that didn't go ENTIRELY against the "Fair Use" rule, but well...I didn't write the book, so I'll let you read it for yourself and give credit where credit is due! (ahem, the authors :) )

My favorite thing about this book is that these authors REALLY know about boys. They are honest about the way boys are, the things they do and say, and they don't hold back describing the positives and "negatives."

This week, the authors (in a sense) introduced my sons to me. They described them to a t, saying that boys are aggressive, destructive, and obsessed with power. I was reminded that I am to be raising these little future men to be godly soldiers and warriors in this spiritual warfare we are experiencing on earth. I need to redirect their "bulliness" into being a protector. It's okay that they want to fight everything that comes into their path. God really did make them that way! They were created to be fighters, hunters, MANLY!

I love how the Young's talk about man and woman being created in God's image. Now, of course I already knew this, but they described something I just don't think about. Gender roles are so skewed nowadays, and once again, the Lord's plan for creation has been marred by sin. The Young's mention the fact that God created WOMAN in order to display certain qualities He possesses, and He created MAN in order to display totally different qualities. Man and woman are not supposed to switch places here! Part of my job in raising real men is to make sure I nurture and encourage my sons' MANLY qualities. In these qualities, God will be glorified, made known, exalted! How exciting when I think of it with an eternal kingdom perspective! (How easy it is for me to get distracted and forget that this should always be my only perspective!)

One thing I read just today that I will be immediately putting into practice is telling my sons they are my heroes! Whenever it is appropriate, how wonderful for them to hear (from me, from anyone!) you're my hero!! This, currently, is what my 2 oldest sons are aspiring to be, and I want them to know they already are that to me. What a confidence builder!

My sons are looking for heroes (and at this point, for MY kids, they have found Spiderman, the Hulk, Wolverine, get where I'm coming from?) They need REAL superheroes to look up to...real men who have lived (and died) for the sake of Jesus' name, real men they can aspire to be like!

This is one of those books that I just can't stop highlighting in. As my husband would say, "Why don't you just highlight the parts you DON'T want to remember?" haha ;)

Manly virtues mentioned in the book that are inherently present in boys from birth:
a desire for adventure
(taken from p. 27)
They accurately remind their readers that none of these virtues are quiet or neat!

And I chose the following quote as the "Quote of the Week," because...
well, it was...
A punch in the stomach...

"Will we cultivate them (the virtues listed above) and help bring them to fruition? Or will we trade the opportunity for a little more peace and quiet, and hope their future will take care of itself?" (pp. 27-28)

I'll leave you with a tiny clip of Justus. In true boy form, he is fighting what appears to be an invisible bad guy on my bed while I sit and read during "quiet time." (and also while his baby brother squeals with delight, watching HIS hero from the nearby swing) This went on for probably 30 minutes, but I will spare you and share just a few seconds of this common occurrence in the Frye house.

Justus fighting from Anna Frye on Vimeo.

Tuesday, February 1, 2011


Jehovah helps, Jehovah has healed

The Lord saves

King of Judah, 1 and 2 Kings
"Neither before nor after Josiah was there a king like him who turned to the LORD as he did—with all his heart and with all his soul and with all his strength, in accordance with all the Law of Moses."
2 Kings 23:25

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